Fluid Boundaries

Have you heard the latest buzzword? Boundaries. It’s really buzzing out there…

A younger version of myself though of boundaries as the Great Wall, upright, rigid and clearly defined. A younger wiser version of me intellectually loves the analogy of the semi-permeable cell membrane. I am more fully coming into my wiser self (or so I like to think). The cell membrane is the perfect example because it is fluid, ever-changing to respond to the conditions internally and externally. A cell senses the internal and external conditions without language. Humans put imperfect language on the cell; we quantify the difference in potential across the cell membrane, we seek out knowledge about the various salt/sugar concentrations, etc. Did you know cells membranes have pumps that facilitate transportation of certain nutrients across? It’s so rad! All reasons why I studied Biochemistry in college and why I am on a mission to shine the light on the insight your body has in store for you.

Spontaneously, I find myself “ranking” how boundaried someone is and not as in good/bad boundaries. Rather rigid to fluid. Some folks come right out and communicate their boundary - it feels aggressive to me. Some folks navigate it by engaging a collaborative decision - it feels jarring to me at first, because this is not my MO. I’m adjusting to this more fluid approach to boundaries, the expression of power with and the safety that I feel in my body that allows me to soften in this way and allow another to collaborate with me trusting I won’t lose myself.

Fluid boundaries generate a path to vitality. It’s nature’s way. You are nature.